The other day, I had a conversation with a friend about ambition and it got me thinking about the different types of ambition and how many people view the ambitions of others. When most people think about ambition, they think about careers. For me, I am ambitious about my writing career. But that ambition started as a passion toward writing and it grew into ambition for a career. I am also ambitious about having a happy family life and one day having children. I think that these ambitions are all equal. I don’t think one is more important than the other. But I find that some people do think that some ambitions are more important than others.
Some people are very career driven. They don’t want children, they just want to further their career; to reach the top. And that is wonderful, but I find that many of those people (not all) frown upon and sometimes outright make fun of those who are ambitious toward growing their family and taking care of their children. They ask questions such as “Is that all you are going to do for a job?” or “Don’t you get bored being at home with your kids all day?”. I don’t think they realize how rude they are being. And I’m sure that if someone were to point it out to them, they would be offended that someone thought that of them. It is as if it is so ingrained in them that career ambition is all there is to life that they don’t understand that someone could give a crap less about it!
The flip side can also be true. Some people with a growing family and a strong ambition to raise their children the best that they can don’t understand and can be outright rude toward those who love their careers rather than a family. They ask questions such as “So once you have kids, you’re going to focus less on your career right?” or say things like “You better have children soon or you are going to run out of time!”. And these questions and comments can be just as inconsiderate as the questions in the above paragraph.
Then there are those in the middle. Who want a bit of both worlds. Some of those people strive to have both a career and family full force, and some succeed. But most of us realize that we must make sacrifices in order to have both.
Basically, people judge one another way to much. And sometimes all we need to do is step back and try to look at things from the other persons perspective. It is not so black and white as to say that the career driven person is wrong and the family person is right, or vice versa. Each person has a different path and a different idea of what is important to them. So how about we all just let that be and work toward our own goals and give into our own ambitions!
Do you lean more toward your career or having a family? Or are you like me, somewhere in the middle?
Also, have you experienced someone looking down upon what you are ambitious toward? What happened?